When they first get to know a girl, many boys will think that she is too introverted, too cold, and always ignores her. In fact, this is a normal phenomenon. Isn’t it true when we face unfamiliar people? Even, in a sense, this is a good thing, indicating that she is not a casual girl. At this time, if we want to make her less cold, what we have to do is to slowly become familiar with her. So what should we do specifically?

1. Don’t be too aggressive at the beginning of the chat

You should know that most girls are slightly introverted, but most introverts are not absolutely introverted. They also have a cheerful side and have different ways of coping with different situations.

They are not as willing to express themselves to people they are not familiar with as extroverts. This kind of introversion can also be understood as slow-warming. Most of them are sensitive, like to be alone, and often do not take the initiative to talk to others.

Therefore, when we first get to know a girl, if we are too aggressive when we first start chatting, it will only offend her. But we have to take action, but we have to combine various topics to steadily advance the relationship bit by bit. Try to ask as few questions as possible that can be answered in five words or less, such as "What did you eat?" and "What are you doing?"

2. Don’t just think about yourself when chatting

When chatting, we should listen more to what the other party says. Don't get carried away by yourself and forget to understand the other person's feelings. When facing someone we like, we still have to put ourselves in their shoes and feel their emotions.

You know her thoughts and can be considerate of her. Your thoughtfulness and understanding will be a big plus for her. In addition, when the other party needs an independent private space, we must not be too impatient, we must take it step by step and take our time.

For example, before the relationship is confirmed, if she doesn’t reply to your message in time, you will start to urge her desperately. Such behavior will bring a sense of oppression to them and make them feel tired to be with you.

We should be patient and accumulate a little bit of change on the way to a more mature relationship. Let her respond from no response at first to less response, then from less to more, and finally to frequent response.

At this time, it is a node from quantitative change to qualitative change, and it is also the best period for us to successfully pursue it. At this point, if you want her to be indifferent, she will not be able to help but miss you all the time. Therefore, we must take it step by step and endure "loneliness" little by little.

Having said so much, some friends may feel that it is too annoying and difficult. In fact, getting along with others is not that complicated. As long as we are sincere, patient, calm, respect her personal world, and give her enough time. Sooner or later, she will accept you and affirm you in her heart, and naturally she will not be as cold as she was when they first met.