Chatting with girls is actually a technical job. If you can chat well with a girl, then she will have a certain liking for you. If you chat with a girl for a few words and then you can't keep talking, then even if she likes you at first, she will gradually become alienated from you. This is the charm of chatting with girls, so how can you gain favor by talking to girls? Today I will analyze this issue for you.
1. Don’t talk too much
There is a netizen who wants to chat with me. The first time he sent me a private message, he sent more than 700 words, including his opinions on an article of mine, the girls he liked, and his preferences and thoughts.
I replied a word or two to one of the questions.
As a result, he typed out thousands more words, including his growth experience, his insights in psychology, his various thoughts, and the process of his interactions with two girls. . He finally asked me: I don’t know why, but every time I add girls to chat with them for a while, they delete me in the end.
I couldn’t help but answer him: Your biggest problem is that you talk too much.
Some people rely on their knowledge and eloquence, or are too eager to show their talents and make girls accept them, so they can't help but I have the problem of talking too much, talking too much, talking loudly, regardless of what I say. People sometimes misunderstand. As long as I tell you everything about myself, I can quickly establish a connection with you.
However, everyone has never thought about it. In fact, for a new person, your experience is not as interesting as you imagine, and your inner world is not very touching to a stranger. When a girl hasn't decided whether to be friends with you, you can't wait to confess yourself. This attitude is actually very scary.
Putting aside the issue of shallow conversation and deep conversation, it is a bad conversational behavior for a person to keep talking without giving the person he is chatting with a chance to speak at all. Just like the Mai Ba in KTV, we know that no matter how moving our singing is, we cannot always sing over the Mai. We must appropriately suppress our desire for expression, because we have the obligation to listen to others sing and cheer for others.
The same goes for chatting. Sometimes listening is more important than speaking. I would say, do you think you can speak better than Guo Degang? Maybe you are just enjoying yourself, and it is possible that the girl is just politely complimenting you. Being able to listen is a service that helps the chat partner find something cool.
2. Learn to guide girls to talk
Some people may say, "Originally I am the one who takes the initiative. If I don't find more topics to talk about, I don't work hard to talk more." , it will be a quiet moment.” In this case, we need to give the girls timely words and guide them to say what they want to say. For example:
Girl: I found a very good restaurant on Hualin Road last time.
But you answered: There are many good restaurants in Fuzhou, such as TonghuRoad home... 8 pull 8, omit 800 words here.
Sorry, you stole the wheat. Maybe you wanted to take this opportunity to show off your knowledge, but the girl had the opportunity to describe the restaurant to you, but you ruthlessly took this opportunity away.
The correct answer is: Really? Tell me quickly, why is it so good? Encourage the girl to finish what she wants to say.
When a girl doesn’t take the initiative to bring up any topic she wants to talk about, how can she pass the microphone? This requires you to guess which topics girls would be more willing to talk about. Because now there is a circle of friends, which makes this very convenient.
If a girl just posted that she went to Dubai, she would definitely not refuse to chat with you about travel, right? If a girl just showed off a bag, she would certainly not refuse to chat with you about her experience in choosing a bag, right? (You are not allowed to chat with me in the way I talk. The day before yesterday, I posted hyacinth in my circle of friends. I don’t want 100 people to come to me and talk about hyacinth at the same time!)
One day, I added a new friends. She asked me some questions, and then I looked at her circle of friends and asked her: Why can you take photos so artistic and fresh?
So she carefully introduced me to a very niche photography software and began to guide me on how to use it. (Since this is not an advertisement, I won’t mention the name of the software.) I downloaded it immediately, and the trial result was really great. I was very happy, and so was she.
A pleasant chat should have relatively balanced opportunities for both parties to perform. If you always grab the mic and turn chatting into your own talk show, girls will definitely not like chatting with you. The fun of chatting is interaction. No matter how good you are at speaking, can you speak better than storytelling and cross talk? If you just want to listen to what others say, you might as well just listen to the radio station.
No matter singing in KTV, chatting, or anywhere else, a person cannot just enjoy himself. You must learn to take care of your opponent's emotions and have a spirit of dedication and service to some extent.
Talking to a girl is actually not that difficult. The difficulty is how to make her have a good impression of you after talking to you. I hope everyone will be inspired after reading the above content.
