Chatting with girls is a process of exchanging information and emotions. In other words, it is exchanging value, and the value in chatting can also be divided into other values ??and emotional value. If you want to make girls feel good through chatting, you need to provide a certain emotional value.

Because a girl’s friends with non-emotional values ??can also provide us, we don’t have anything special for her. . To be her "most special person", you can remember this formula:

Humorous opening remarks + easy to talk about emotional topics + timely termination of the conversation

Today we will focus on Let’s talk about “terminating the conversation at the right time.”

First of all, we need to know why we want to terminate the conversation.

In fact, when chatting, the two parties’ favorable impression of each other is similar to a curve that “first rises and then falls”.

Pay attention to the situation where you and the girl had a good chat before, and you can also chat with your friends.

It is not difficult to find that when both parties are in the best mood, they often fall into awkward silence.

If two people dare to chat at this time, not only the quality of the chat will decline, but the emotions of both parties will be affected, and in the end it will become "chatting just for the sake of chatting."

So at this time, the boy needs to find a suitable reason and actively terminate the conversation. Terminating the conversation has three benefits:

1. It shows that your life is very fulfilling, and it also emphasizes that your chat is hard-won, and she will cherish the chat with you even more;

2 , let the girl feel that you are "challenging", and she will be eager to conquer you, and in the process she will become more and more fond of you;

3. Terminate when you are in the best mood topic, establish a positive emotional link, and her mood will be positive the next time we talk.

So how do we end the conversation?

1. Peak-End Law

< p> Psychologist Daniel Kahneman’s research found that people’s memory of experiences is determined by two factors:

How they feel at the peak, and how they feel at the end.

To put it simply, if the experience is pleasant at the peak and end of an experience, then the entire experience will be pleasant.

For example, it’s the first time you date a girl you like.

During this process, you may be late for the meeting due to nervousness or other factors, or you may not know what to talk about and fall into silence. These are not so important.

As long as the girl’s mood improves slightly, the harmonious atmosphere is maintained, and the date ends perfectly, how will she feel about the date as a whole?It's harmonious.

The same goes for substituting scenes into chats.

Mobilize the other party’s emotions through humorous opening remarks, choose topics that she can easily get emotional about, and maintain a good emotional peak and a good feeling when the chat ends. This communication will be effective.

Over time, feelings for each other will naturally grow.

It is worth mentioning that if the peak and end point appear almost at the same time, the other party will be more impressed.

For example, if you are talking to each other and your mood is at its peak, and you suddenly use the excuse of something to interrupt, the other person's mood will stay at this stage, and their impression of you will also remain at this level.

However, it should be noted that doing this once or twice occasionally will have miraculous effects, but we cannot talk like this every time. That will make the other person feel very insecure.

2. Zeigarnik effect

You must have heard of this psychological effect.

Simply put, the Zeigarnik effect means that people are more impressed by things that have not yet been processed than by things that have been processed.

The most famous example is: because first love is "unfinished business" for people, so people never forget their first love.

Everyone must have had this feeling. Before the things at hand were finished, I couldn’t eat or sleep. But I don’t pay that much attention to the things I have done.

In fact, this is in line with people’s memory rules. The human brain always remembers some content that needs to be processed and puts it in working memory.

Just like the memory of a computer, the brain will intentionally forget what has been completed or will be completed.

Therefore, terminating the conversation in time will not only keep her in a high mood, but more importantly, she will still be interested in your chat this time, and you can still continue chatting around this topic next time.

In this way, you will become the kind of boy who "can have fun chatting with girls" that you once most envied.

Chatting is not difficult if you use the right method.