How to become a good chatter? This is a top priority for most male friends, so the editor has also taken this into consideration , today I’m here to give you some tips and share 4 basic skills, so hurry up and learn them in the front row.

1. Find a common topic

Ha~ I guess you must be complaining: Do you still need to say it? If I find a common topic, I still need to read your article?!

Don’t worry, don’t worry, I will tell you how to find common topics.

Everyone has learned about sets in high school mathematics class. There are also intersections between people. The trigger point for you to connect with a stranger is to find the set where you two intersect.

For example, you have common friends, similar experiences - going to school, going to work, Weibo hot spots, TV series, movies and variety shows that you have watched, songs that you have listened to together, etc., there are countless.

All you need to do is select one thing to start the topic. For example, you can say: Hey, have you watched the recently popular "The Son-in-law"?

2. Raise questions and let If the other party has something to say

Never say something that has no beginning and no end, leaving the other party confused and not sure how to answer it. The first sentence you say must let the other person have something to say, so that it can be considered communication.

Continuing to use the example just now, after you ask the other person if they like "The Son-in-law", you can ask the question: Which character in it do you like?

3. Listen to the other person's opinion or Emotion

Many people may mistakenly think that being able to chat means they can keep talking and create topics. In fact, this is not the case. To be able to chat, you not only need to have something to say, but also let the other person say it, my friend. You have to listen to understand what needs the other person wants to express, which may be opinions or emotions. Then put yourself in their shoes and understand the other person’s needs.

4. Share your emotions or opinions

When chatting with others, you should also express your needs Or emotions, let the other party understand what you want to say, it is best to be clear and let the other party understand.

The first four steps will basically allow you to establish a certain connection with strange friends. What you will say next will most likely come naturally.

Because these four steps form a "closed loop", closed-loop thinking means that if you initiate something, no matter how well you do it, the loop must eventually close to you as the initiator. When it comes to communication, your "closed loop" means that you control the rhythm of communication and know how far it will go.

So have you learned it? If you want to become a good chatter, you need these 4 basic skills.It’s important to master it proficiently. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how. Try it a few times and practice makes perfect. I believe you can all master it. Come on~!