Why is it that after chatting with a girl for a long time, the relationship is still not cool? Why does the girl start to become indifferent after chatting with her for a few words? The main reason why these situations occur is because we do not show our love correctly. Value and charm. He even made himself lose value during chatting. Today I will take you to understand the behavior of boys losing value when chatting with girls.

1. Premature exposure of the need

Chatting with a girl you like They had a good conversation and got along very harmoniously, and there was even a slight ambiguity between the two of them.

But after you show a hint of interest in her, your relationship changes.

She starts to be cold to you, starts to reply to your messages less frequently, and becomes farther and farther away from you.

The biggest killer when pursuing a girl is to expose your neediness too early, causing your masculine charm to disappear in an instant.

In addition to being eager to invite someone and confessing too early, continuously sending boring messages to girls will also completely expose your sense of need.

When the messages you send to a girl do not get a reply, or the reply is not positive, don’t send her messages one after another. .

When she sees your message and wants to reply to you, she will naturally reply to you.

If a girl doesn’t want to talk to you, she won’t reply no matter how many messages you send her. Continuous harassment will only reduce a girl's favorability towards you.

In daily chatting, if a girl always takes more than ten minutes to reply to you, don’t always reply immediately.

Most girls are relatively sensitive. Being eager for success from the beginning will only make the girl feel that you have intentions for her and keep a distance from you.

Before attraction is established, in order to avoid exposing your needs too much, try to talk to girls as little as possible about more personal topics.

2. Blindly please

There are also some boys who think that as long as they are good to a girl, care about her enough and persist in the long run, they can be with a girl.

But in fact, a girl will not be moved to like you just because you are nice to her.

In the process of pursuing a girl, the most cheap behavior is to do it before you have established a relationship with the girl. To please her as a "quasi-boyfriend".

It’s about giving expensive gifts and spending a lot of money to treat girls to high-end restaurants. Girls who are a little bit scumbag will accept all your efforts, and what you get in the end is just a good guy card.

If you really like her, if you want to successfully pursue her, you must first know how to invest in yourself and show your own value.

You know, once you start being nice to her unconditionally, your value will quickly disappear in her eyes.

So, don’t always send these messages to girls that seem to be caring, but are actually flattering, such as “Wear more clothes when it’s cold” and “Don’t sleep in, skipping breakfast is bad for your stomach” .

The correct concern is the warm and masculine side you show when a girl takes the initiative to seek comfort from you:

There are also some boys who self-righteously restrict girls’ freedom even though girls are not interested in you:

You She feels that she cares about her, but what the girl thinks in her heart is: This boy is so small-minded.

The more possessive you are, the farther away girls will be from you.

Girls will not think that you are dedicated and affectionate. Instead, they will think that you are too chauvinistic and do not know how to take care of the needs of girls.

Being too proactive and sacrificing yourself at any cost to gain a girl’s favor for you will only make you despised by the girl.

When you show higher value than a girl, she will naturally be attracted to you. After all, everyone prefers to be with good people.