Chasing a girl is never a simple matter. It is not just about being nice to a girl and occasionally giving her gifts that can turn her into a girlfriend. If you want to chase a girl, the most important thing is the method, especially the method of chatting. Only when you have a good chat can you ask her out and make it possible for the relationship between you to further develop. Next, let’s take a look at the methods of chatting with girls.

1. Don’t be too obsessed with the beginning of the chat

When you just add a girl When chatting on WeChat, many brothers will struggle with how to start, which kind of opening can better attract girls. It is very important to make the opening clear, and directly copy some of the tricks and love words on the Internet. Obviously they are not such a person, but It’s better to follow other people’s methods to chat with girls.

Let’s not talk about whether girls like it or not. If you leave a funny impression on a girl in the first chat, but you are extremely serious in subsequent chats, forming a contrast in image, the girl will I think you are a different person than what you seem, and I have lost interest in you.

2. Respond rationally to a girl’s indifferent attitude

Some brothers say that when they chat with a girl, they always feel that she is cold to them. Does it mean that they don’t like themselves and want to give up? In fact, girls Being cold towards you is a psychological defense mechanism.

Girls are naturally insecure, so when they get along with strangers, they will intentionally or unintentionally hide their thoughts, even if they like the person.

Another point is that a girl’s indifference can also be said to be a disguised test to test whether the boy really likes her. If she can’t even accept her cold attitude, the boy is definitely not. Like yourself.

So when you encounter a girl who is cold towards you, don’t panic too much.

3. Take the initiative to provide topics for girls

Generally speaking, the initiators of chats are boys. Then the entire chat process requires boys to provide and lead the topic. Don't expect girls to actively provide topics.

There is a 9-1 rule here. At the beginning, girls will only be responsible for 10% of the people providing topics, and will not be responsible for providing topics at all, because you initiated the conversation on your own initiative. At this stage, you need to resist 90% of the topics, resist the pressure from the girls' cold attitude, and slowly adapt to it.

4. Chatting with a fixed frequency

Only when people are familiar can they let down their guard and start talking about anything. Establishing a fixed frequency chat with a girl can strengthen the sense of connection between the two parties, and After the frequency is fixed, as long as girls slowly adapt to this process, a unique bridge will be formed, which can better build a relationship with girls.

Of course, the fixed frequency must also have an appropriate degree, and cannot be arbitrary.

If the frequency is too high, girls will gradually feel pressured to chat, which is counterproductive. If the frequency is too low, a sense of connection cannot be effectively established. Therefore, when chatting with girls in the early stage, it is safest to maintain a frequency of once a week.

There is a seven-day law of love in psychology. The relationship between lovers needs to meet at least once in seven days to maintain the heat. Once this frequency is lower than this, the heat will drop or even disappear. This seven-day rule also indirectly supports the frequency of chatting once a week based on my own experience.

When chatting on WeChat when chasing a girl, only by maintaining an appropriate frequency can we establish a sense of connection and make her familiar with our existence.

5. Seize the initiative in chat

When girls become familiar with our existence, they want to chat through After turning her into a girlfriend, we need to improve the quality of the chat, take the initiative in the chat, and develop the chat in a direction that is beneficial to ourselves and the progress of the relationship.

Here is a good way to start a WeChat chat, which is to share current activities + feelings and avoid starting the topic with blunt questions.

For example, "It's sunny today and it's so comfortable to walk on the road." Walking on the road is the activity I am experiencing now, and being comfortable is my current feeling.

When a topic is successfully opened, the topic can be expanded based on the girl’s reply.

If a girl says "Oh" and the reply is cold and short, then don't reply to her and end the topic directly, because the girl's coldness means that she doesn't want to chat. If you continue to chat with her, you will only If it turns into an entanglement, it will make girls even more disgusted.

If a girl says: "It's really good, I haven't gotten up yet," it means that she has given you feedback, but her focus is mainly on herself and not much on you. You can pay more attention to girls and then talk about yourself.

For example: "I can't afford it, little lazy boy. I'm going to play badminton today. I haven't done anything for a long time." Here we will first tease the girls, and then switch the topic to playing badminton by ourselves. This can not only show the good side of our love for sports, but if girls also like it, then there will be a common topic, which can strengthen the connection and intimacy. .

If a girl says: "That's good, what are you going to do?" The girl pays a lot of attention to you and the replies are all focused on you, so you should express yourself more appropriately, and then Then pay attention to girls by the way.

For example: "I'm going to go to the library to swim in the ocean. What are you going to do?" Here you first explain to the girls what you are going to do, and reading is also a high-value display of charm. , conveying a positive image to girls, and you can also use this to invite girls.

RootAccording to the feedback from girls, make appropriate adjustments to the chat so that you neither express yourself too much nor pay too much attention to the other person during the chat, and you will have a better chat.

6. Try to invite girls

When you feel that you are almost done chatting with girls, then you can invite girls We met, because only through meeting, feeling each other step by step, and experiencing life can we quickly increase the emotional temperature of each other, enter each other's hearts, and stimulate the feeling of heartbeat.

Of course, you must be vague before inviting a girl. Only by first judging the girl's favorability can you increase the chance of successfully dating a girl.

For example, if we chat with a girl about food and the conversation goes well, we can use this to vaguely invite the girl and say, "There is a new restaurant nearby that you must like the taste. Let's try it together next time."

If a girl says: "Okay", don't rush to agree to the girl immediately. You can first ask the girl whether she has sufficient time schedule and whether she has any taboos, and then invite her.

If a girl says, "Let's wait until you are free," and the girl neither agrees nor refuses, then don't dwell on the topic of the invitation, and switch topics to look for other opportunities.