The understanding of things generally needs to be based on known concepts. To understand the confidant, you must first understand the meaning of confidante - it describes a female friend that a man has, who can talk about anything, who resonates with each other and is very intimate. Using this analogy, I believe you already have a certain understanding of the concept of Lanyan confidant.

What is a confidant?

A bosom friend refers to someone who is mentally independent and soul-conscious with a woman. A male friend who is equal and can achieve deep resonance. Due to the special characteristics of men and women, it is known as a fourth type of emotion that is separate from family, love, and friendship.

Due to the vagueness of its concept, it is difficult to define whether Lan Yan Zhiji is related to ambiguity.

Generally divided into two situations:

a) Both parties of the opposite sex maintain an appropriate distance, have love but no desire, have affection but no sex, and have a high degree of tacit understanding and mutual annoyance. They talk about everything with each other, and they can be called each other's confidants in life and work.

b) Opposite sexes cherish each other, have a close relationship, and don’t even mind each other’s boundaries. They can accept some physical contact, but there is no way of knowing to what extent it can be achieved (real knowledge comes from practice).

What does it mean for a girl to treat you as a confidant?

　1. Spare tire. Once a girl labels you a "blue-faced confidante", the subtext is - it's good to stay in your current state, and it's forbidden to go beyond the limits.

2. Ambiguity. The girl is expressing that your relationship is above that of friends, not lovers, and uses a euphemistic expression to hint that you should take the initiative.

3. Literal meaning. It means that you are very important to a girl, but you will never be your lover or mistress.

Can Lanyan Zhiji upgrade the relationship?

Lanyan Zhiji means that girls can tell you what is in their heart. But I can't cuddle up with you. The only way to keep warm between close friends can only be the warmth of the soul, not the warmth of the body. Once it becomes the warmth of the body, it is the time to upgrade the relationship.

Lan Yan’s confidant is a boy who truly understands a girl’s psychology and feelings. He will not worry about every joy, anger, sorrow, and joy of a girl all the time, but will shed tears for every drop of her tears when they meet. I feel sorry for her, but I feel happy every time she smiles. She is the first person I think of when a girl is hurt and wronged.

If you like this girl, you can give a little hint or test her inner thoughts. If she has no intention to express, it means that she does not want to upgrade the relationship with you.

What kind of boys are easy to be regarded as confidants?

　a) TalentBoys who are smarter than others

b) Boys who are outspoken

c) Boys who are willing to listen

d) Boys who have similar interests

e) Positive and optimistic boys

f) Tolerant boys